一、 initial impression（刚开始接触mm）
1. The most critical aspect is to demonstrate your ambition. girls are attracted to successful men, and when you're young and haven't achieved much, it's essential to show your drive and aspiration. Be clear about your confidence in the future, your dissatisfaction with the status quo, and your long-term plans. Make it clear that your future is not just a dream.
2. Present confidence and responsibility without appearing overly formal or casual. Be serious when it's appropriate, but also know when to relax and have fun. Girls tend to like men who are not overly concerned with everything, as it shows a charming nonchalance.
3. Show maturity. A calm and collected man in challenging situations isensely attractive to girls.
二、further contact（开始追的阶段）
1. Don't be too急迫. Don't make it obvious that you're pursuing her. Think from her perspective; if you come on too strong too soon, she might feel pressured. It's better to let the relationship evolve naturally.
2. Start low and steady. Keep the relationship casual, and avoid labeling it as "dating" or "pursuing." This reduces her pressure and allows for a smooth progression of the relationship.
3. Don't be overly eager. Give her space and avoid constant contact. Girls appreciate a chase, but not a relentless pursuit. Find a balance between showing interest and giving her freedom.
4. Create opportunities. Be creative in finding reasons to spend time with her. It can be a planned encounter or a casual invitation. Make it自然 and enjoyable.
5. Avoid random gift-giving. It can be seen as imposing pressure. Instead, share experiences like meals or activities. This way, the focus is on shared experiences rather than material gifts.
三、What is a "girlfriend"?
1. A girlfriend is a fact, not a promise. You start by becoming good friends, then perhaps more. One day, you may hold her hand or share a kiss, and that makes her your girlfriend. It's about actions, not declarations.
2. Confession is a formality. It comes after you've established a relationship, not before. Don't rush to say "I love you." Let it happen naturally.
3. When is it necessary to confess? Only if there's a threat, like another suitor, or a potential breakup. Otherwise, it's risky and can backfire.
4. Don't use "love" lightly. It's a serious word that implies pursuit and commitment. Don't say it unless you mean it.
四、 Civilized courtship, no forcing
1. Not every girl can be pursued successfully. Some are simply unavailable or not interested. Accept that and move on.
2. Pursuing a girl is a serious endeavor. Don't become obsessive or annoying. Keep your self-respect and give yourself options.
3. Don't be overly negative or cynical around girls. It can be a turn-off, and it doesn't showcase your best self.
